Single Positivity: The empowerment movement taking over
F**k your fairy tales.
Valentine’s Day has arrived, but this year more and more people are saying goodbye to the pressure of finding “the right one”.
From an early age, through Disney movies and TV shows, it has come to our minds that meeting the perfect partner is the most important thing in life. If we find our Prince Charming, we will be delighted.
But, of course, true love is not the only path to happiness. Luckily, we realize that our happily ever after doesn’t have to involve someone else. Being single has changed its name.
As Carrie Bradshaw once said, “The most exciting, empowering and meaningful relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone who loves you, well, that’s it. simply fabulous.”
And yes, Carrie may have spent almost all of Sex And The City drifting through different relationships — but hey, she finally learned her lesson, didn’t she?
This movement is called unique positivity and that’s pretty much what it sounds like – throwing away traditional notions, embracing self-love and becoming your own partner. It focuses on what you gain from being single rather than what you seem to lack.
The idea has gained a lot of traction lately, and it’s no surprise considering how many women have spoken about embracing it.
Actress Emma Watson previously said she felt enormous pressure as she entered her thirties as a single woman.
“All of a sudden there’s this bloody rush of subliminal messaging,” she said. British vogue.
“If you haven’t built a house, if you don’t have a husband, if you don’t have a baby, and you’re 30, and you’re not somewhere incredibly safe and stable in your career, or you’re still figuring things out…”
“There’s just this incredible amount of anxiety.
“I never believed the whole ‘I’m happily single’ spiel. It took me a while, but I’m very happy [being single]. I call it being independent.
Sure, being in a relationship has its perks, but so is being single — and we should celebrate them.
So what exactly are these benefits? And what does embracing single positivity look like?
She asked three women to share what unique positivity means to them.
“The whole norm around relationships is finding a certain person to develop a connection with. It’s always about someone else,” says Nicole, 25.
“But being single, I finally found the most precious relationship I’ve ever had – and it’s the one I have with myself.
“Sometimes I dress up and go on a date – yes, you can! Some people might think that’s weird, but it really isn’t.”
“It’s actually great for personal growth,” says Sara, 28. “Like, I was in a relationship through my most formative years. It’s just nice to be able to relate to each other, you know?”
“I would say, yes, it’s empowering to be single and to be able to focus on self-love,” says Rachel, 27. you grow as a person by discovering who you are and there is no rush to commit to a serious relationship, even if it is normal.
“[Being single] is a time to learn more about yourself because then you will know exactly what you want when or if you decide to enter into a relationship.”
You heard it here, why not ditch the stereotypes and go on a date this Valentine’s Day?